I really highly recommend clicking on this link and reading this woman’s story - it is absolutely horrifying (but unfortunately not super surprising). I’m sitting here crying over my computer after reading it, and I’m also feeling really empowered, in my job as someone who sometimes works with survivors of sexual assault or rape, to keep advocating for them and listening to them and doing everything in my power to help. I’m lucky that I’m in a job that has extensive training and procedures on how to assist survivors, and that I have coworkers who have a ton more training on this than I do and are really, really good at giving this type of support.
But it’s not just about job training and following procedures. There is a bigger responsibility that so many ignore to not only support survivors, but to make this behavior truly socially unacceptable and perceived as disgusting as it really is. Next time somebody makes a rape joke or a sexist joke or something similar, call them out. If one ever pops into your mind, don’t say it, and call yourself out and think about why you thought it and why it’s not okay. It’s never okay because if it’s okay to joke about it, it’s more okay to brush it off when it really happens, as so many people clearly did in this situation.